We live in a world that can be very judgemental and there is nothing wrong with that. Everyone is judgemental even the people that think they aren’t. We all judge others and we may not even realize it. Take a look at politics. Despite there being tens of millions of both conservatives and liberals, each with their own opinions, each party makes sweeping generalizations about the other as if each individual is nothing more than a mindless clone espousing the party’s ideas. It’s the natural way of life and it’s never going to change.
The only thing we can change is how it makes us feel when other people judge. Have you ever asked yourself how do I stop caring about what other people think of me? Well, today is your lucky day. We are going over 4 ways to not care what anyone thinks of you. When I say anyone I mean ya mama, ya daddy, ya BFF, or the neighbor across the street lol.
1. Realize you can’t control someone else’s feelings or thoughts
As much as you want to control what people think of you. You literally can’t. I guess maybe if you try to win them over by lying about who you are, but in that case, they still don’t like YOU. They like the fake image you are showing them. Once you accept that you can’t control someone, not caring what they think becomes much easier.
2. Ask yourself are you happy with you?
If the answer to this is yes, then who cares if anyone else likes you! Today so many people are still trying to figure out who they are. If you already have that figured out, consider yourself lucky and be happy. Now, if you don’t like the person you are then you probably will care what other people think, so take the time to focus on self-love.
3. Understand the person judging you is messed up too
Yes, even the person judging you deserves grace because they aren’t perfect. They always say a person that becomes a bully was likely bullied before. Apply this same idea to judgment. The people who think ill of you are likely going through personal traumas that they still need to heal. This is why you shouldn’t give their judgments too much weight.
4. Lean on the people that do support you
This should be common sense, but I have seen people treat the ones that love them wrong, while they chase the people that don’t. You likely already have people in your life that love you the way you are. Lean on these people and surround yourself with their energy.
I promise if you take these tips and apply them to your life you will begin to care less about what the rest of the world thinks of you. I may have oversimplified things, but I like to keep things simple and straight to the point. If you find you are still struggling with the opinions of outsiders you can also reach out to a licensed therapist for additional help. Until next time friends.
